Fruits In Marriage

This is based on a true life story from ‘My Mother’s Diary”. In my Mum’s diary are many stories and thoughts. Stories and lessons learned from over five decades on earth, over thirty years of marriage with a youthful heart. I believe these stories would be of immense blessing to you as it was and still is to me. Join me as I unfold these stories of love, marriage, and hope for a greater future…

Me:     Good morning sir

“I am not happy. You keep telling me to forgive this son of yours for those hurtful things he does to me.  This time Lord, I’m going to show him the stuff I am made up of!” I had a straight face as I reported my husband to God. Immediately came the unexpected answer,

God:    “Yes! Show him”.

Me: ‘    “What!” I asked in surprise. I thought that answer could not have been coming from the Spirit of God. My intention was to pay him back in his own coin, because I felt that was what he deserved. He needed to experience the effect of those hurtful attitude he sometimes portrayed. But nothing prepared me for the response I got from God. Deep inside I knew I was reacting based on my anger, but I asked again. Once again, I heard the voice in my spirit

God:   “Yes, show him the stuff you are made up of. You are gentle, kind, loving, good, patient, suffer long …” the list of the fruit of the spirit continued to roll out. Then he continued, “Since you are made up of the spirit of God, you can only show him the stuff I am made up of.”

Galatians 5:22-23 AMPC saysBut the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can bring a charge].”

As I heard those words in my spirit, I was comforted and all the anger in me subsided. I was strengthened to forgive, I allowed the fruits of the spirit to flow through me and my heart was filled with joy.

In our relationship with people and especially in marriage, there will sometimes be disagreement. While getting to know each other better, we may do or say hurtful things to each other intentionally or unintentionally, but we can always find solace when we turn to the word of God and the Holy Spirit. Sometimes it’s not that easy, but God is always ready to help us through it all when we allow him.

Paying people back in their own coin will never bring solutions to problems but instead compound it but the word of God stirred by His Spirit will always bring solutions.

Remember, everything always bears fruit according to its kind but the thing is, will our fruit bring glory to God, and bless others or will it set the path to their destruction?

If we were to be offered the fruit we bear, are we willing to gladly receive it, and when we do, how well will it taste? Think about it.

I’ll like you to ponder on this scripture. “Does a spring send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Nor can salt water produce fresh. Who among you is wise and intelligent? Let him by his good conduct show his [good] deeds with the gentleness and humility of true wisdom”. James 3:11-13 AMP

You can produce good fruits in your marriage, relationships and in every area of your life.

I Love You and God Bless you!

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13 thoughts on “SHOW HIM WHAT YOU’RE MADE OF!”

  1. Thank so much for sharing this story with us.
    I believe when we allow the fruits of the Spirit to germinate, watered n grow in us, it will bear fruits that will bless us, our families n people around us. Love is the greatest of them all. Imagine what a person can achieve through LOVE.

  2. What I am made of. Na Holy Spirit ooo. The Fruit of the Spirit. Thank You very much for sharing. Very impactful. I celebrate you dearly

  3. Kemi Paul-Ahmed

    Hmmm! You really hit the nail on the head… Atimes, you just feel like making the other person feel what they make you feel but then it all boils down to What you are made of….
    Thanks a lot sis for this reminder. More grace & God bless you.

  4. Grace Akinleye

    Sometimes, it may be difficult for us to bear with our partners weaknesses but when we surrender to Jesus, He gives us the strength to show others what we are made of.

    1. Hi Modele, this is very true. Surrendering to Jesus strengthens us to do things right.Thanks for sharing.

  5. Adedayo Adenrele

    Show him the stuff you are made off!!! Very insightful! It got me thinking about what exactly I am made of. I am indeed made of God’s Spirit and so I can only manifest the fruits of the Spirit. Thank you for sharing this Tos!

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