What Have I Gotten Myself Into?

This is based on a true life story from ‘My Mother’s Diary”. In my Mum’s diary are many stories and thoughts. Stories and lessons learned from over five decades on earth, over thirty years of marriage with a youthful heart. I believe these stories would be of immense blessing to you as it was and still is to me. Join me as I unfold these stories of love, marriage, and hope for a greater future…

At age six I was given the duty of getting cooking ingredients ready for my Aunty. She was in charge of cooking lunch, she was around most times because her fashion outfit operates from home. I had always wanted to cook but she would not allow me. On this particular day when I saw how engrossed she was in her sewing; I ran to get the ingredients together as quickly as possible so I can start cooking before she arrives.

The menu for that day was ogbono soup and swallow. I kept the palm oil in the pot and added all the other ingredients; tomatoes and pepper paste, grayfish, meat, salt and seasoning in the pot. I allowed it to steam for few minutes, and therein goes the grinded ogbono. I was so happy and proud of myself that I made the soup. Few minutes afterwards, I realized the big trouble I had gotten myself into.

The ogbono wouldn’t blend together neither did it draw, I was covered in sweat at the thought of the two rounds of beating waiting for me. One from my aunty and the worst from my mother when she gets to know of it.  I prayed under my breath as I struggled to correct the mistake, just then my aunty walked in. She laughed when she saw the mess I made of the soup; she then showed me where I went wrong and fixed the problem.

Thank God I was not beaten, she corrected the mistake and saved me from getting the beating of my life from my mother. The reason for my mistake was due to the fact that I did not have the knowledge of how to cook the soup and I just assumed I knew after seeing her cook overtime.

Same also with marriage. A lot of us enter marriage thinking we have the knowledge of what it takes to make a success of it, but we are only working on assumptions. At age six I was too small to handle cooking, though some children are made to handle such at that age; the mental capability of a child at six cannot handle the hazzle that may come with handling cooking. In marriage it is not only the physical maturity that counts but the mental, spiritual, as well as financial, and this does not come with age.

I realized later that some of the ingredients I used and my method of cooking the ogbono soup was wrong. There are basic principles of marriage as taught in the word of God, the right application is best taught by the Spirit of God. Read God’s word, read the right books and develop yourself especially your character. This is important so you don’t ask yourself like I did at age six ”WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO?” rather ask before you leap, “WHAT AM I GETTING MYSELF INTO”.

No two marriages are the same because no two individuals can be the same all of the time, so stop comparing your marriage with others. God, the creator of all things and the marriage institution knows how to lead in making a success of it when we allow him. Just like my aunty fixed the problem I thought was impossible to fix, God knows and understands how to fix whatever issue we may be facing when we submit to his leading. 

‘Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths’. Proverbs 3:5-6 AMPC

‘And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.’ Isaiah 30:21 AMPC

Before you commit your marriage to God you first have to commit yourself to him as Lord over your life.

If you haven’t done so and you wish to, please say this prayer with me:

Lord God, I know you are the owner of my life but I have being running it as I please. Please Forgive me of my sins and let the blood of Jesus cleanse me from all sins. As I yield myself to you as Lord and master over my life; I accept the gift of salvation from your son, Jesus. Thank you for forgiving me in Jesus name I pray. Amen.

As you begin the New Year. Remember to make the word and spirit of God your source.

I Love you & God Bless you!

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Kid Cooking: Clip Art Library

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